Being non-confrontational is a trauma response
Before you get a stroke thinking all the fights you walked away from is you acting out on past traumas..,well ..it maybe is or it could actually be a good thing with valid reasons behind it..,I’m probably not making it any easier so let’s dive right into it😉
You see all those times you walk from fights because you feel like your response won’t be valid enough, or because you feel helpless more so because the one ranting feels like a parent,and you’re the helpless kid who just has to take it..,then that’s a trauma response..,
I completely get it,because even to this big age of almost 25 I still cry when my folks get at it with me..,well I talked back once😂😂and the whole environment I got into after that made me choose flight more often than fight, also because I’m ruthless and I hurt people’s feelings a lot when I argue..,so chosing assertive over agressive had to be the way for my peace and theirs
Do I still get confrontational in some scenarios? hell yeah! Not as much as I would like to..but after this article maybe I will..,
Chosing flight is a good thing in the sense that; it means you’re analytical and you will only fight if you have to,but you’d rather let their anger play out then find peaceful ways to resolve shit, it also means that you’re open minded chosing to see both sides and work around what will be the best compromise for both sides
You’re aware ,you’ve been in that position before and probably burned a bridge coz of giving in to your impluse, so anytime you’re presented with the option of confrontation you chose to be rational, because you’ve been burned before and you’d rather not go down that road again..,more like a kid who gets burned never touches that particular thing that taught him a lesson
So anytime you’re in that position., Whatever choice you’ll make at least now you can gauge your reasons for making it..,if it’s all from a trauma response here are a few things you can do; practice confrontation with someone who won’t get off on you as bad; just to be able to get your edge and learn how to stand up for yourself; remember you’re an adult this is incase you’re acting on the parent-child trauma scenario.,
Because you are worthy, and your opinion matters, and standing up for yourself doesn’t always have to end in a losing that friendship or relationship;
BE BOLD; BE YOU
🥂🥂to being confident and self aware.., ciao👋 till next time😘💓
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